In simple terms, men and women do not understand each other too well. It’s a well known fact. Men like cars. Women like make up. Men drink a beer and watch sport, while women can sit and chat about shoes for hours. Generalisation of course. Profound apologies. However there is one area where we men are on solid ground. Men like ‘curvy’ women. When we say men, we mean ALL men. Women think that men like ‘slim’ women, and that ‘curvy’ means fat. Wow. For a man, talking to a woman about her body and it’s shape is like digging your own grave with your tongue. There is no way we can say to our partners ‘you have a great curvy body’, because she will automatically think we mean she is fat! So we will attempt to explain ‘curvy’ to women, and set their minds at rest. Men are completely turned on by a woman’s shape. Her shape. Not her size. Not her weight. It’s all about the ‘hour-glass’ shape.

There are some very, very slim women who have even slimmer waists, and therefore fall into the category where their body has the beginnings of the hour glass shape. There are some women who are naturally curvy, like a Beyonce, Shakira, or J-Lo. And some women need a little dieting, or exercise to find that shape. Men of all ages love to admire an hour glass body. There is something so incredibly sexy about prominent breasts, a slim waist and rounded hips. And usually the side profile is even better, as most curvy women look as if they are trying to arch their backs, and stick their buttocks out. Awesome. That is what men mean by curvy.

As long as breasts, waist, and hips are all in proportion, dress size is irrelevant. The only people who are honestly interested in whether a woman is size 0 or 10, are other women. Men are only interested in the shape of a woman’s body. Because the editors of women’s magazines are so narrow minded that every single picture in their glossy pages has to represent perfection, normal women who religiously read these pages find faults with themselves. They don’t like their hair. Its too dry or too greasy. They don’t like their eyes. They can detect fine lines and wrinkles. They don’t like their skin. Their hands are too veiny. Their shoulders too broad. Stomach too big. Breasts wrong shape. Legs too short. You get the idea. Who caused all this anxiety? Certainly not men! And ladies, if you take a look through the first few pages of your favourite magazine, the editorial staff is almost exclusively female.

So all the women we know are a little obsessed with being slim, or being the correct weight. None seem too concerned about their shape. Men want one thing. Women are trying to achieve something entirely different. Men want that slim waist. The rounded hips and buttocks. The shapely breasts. They want it all in proportion. But most men are prepared to love their woman, no matter what shape she is. If she were curvy as well as everything else, that really would put the icing on the cake. One great study in the USA was eye opening. The average American woman is 5’4″ tall, and size 14. In terms of fashion, modelling, and Hollywood, that is a plus size. Yet, if you ask men “who is the sexiest woman ever?”, Marilyn Monroe, who happened to be size 14, comes second to “my wife”. Men really think that curvy is beautiful.

If there is something that has been written in a very wide and huge panorama, it’s the glory of the friendship the women have that run all the way from

dating to various other levels. However many women wallow in loneliness with a lack of dating instances and true friendships that can amount to anything.

They depict all chances of friendship hunger, as they peer at the joy and happiness that others in their society keep on enjoying themselves in as they feel the tenacious hunger.

It is that dating outing that your friend went that might be sending charges of pain in your heart, but it might not be heading anywhere. This is what the fantasy that we have intertwined in our belief about the companionship of others, and it might be as empty as ours, or even worse. If we have to say the least, women do undergo a dilemma and a jigsaw puzzle in their act of finding good, viable and available companions. Women want to get into a dating mood once their time has arrived and they don’t want to be left by the women they see being dated, married and having wonderful relationships.

This is what makes them mad and frustrated, with their hearts so heavy and very hurt. The positive thing about women is that they will finally find their mark, start novel and rich relationships that fill them with great pleasure. Once they start dating and living their dream women are the happiest of all human beings. The men are mostly the lucky recipients when their women are happy, while the reverse is true. You don’t have to be dejected anymore; you can also find a person who will touch your heart.

Always be hopeful. If there is something that you have never learned, it is the fact that loneliness and lack of dating relationships is a universal disease that is curable. This is like manna in the world of heaven. You can believe that you will not spend the rest of you time alone and full of misery. You cannot. You must remember friends of any kind are a resource that can be renewed. So says the chronicles of human nature.

Dating is something that will grace your life in no time, and it will not be like spending a whole evening at home doing absolutely nothing as your good neighbors are having a wonderful dating experience under candle lit dinners. It does not matter, you can easily find that you have a better relationship than they, having a satisfying companionship and you will just ask yourself what the fuss was all about.

What you need to be is creative and strategic. To find a man does not entail staying at home and bore you with one TV show after the other. It means going out there and socializing with like-minded individuals. Whether in churches, local clubs or bars, or even in online dating, you will notice after you have been successful that loneliness is just like a flue that just goes away at its opportune time, and just a temporary interlude.