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The Gift Of Love and Its Meaning

Friday, May 29th, 2009

Falling in love, being in love and truly loving yourself can be the most beautiful, devastating activity of your life! It will turn your world upside down and inside out. It’s what we all want, yet resist with all our might. Why? Because it will heal you.

True love is revealing. It peeks through the nooks and crannies of your heart, your spirit and your body to see who you really are, and in that, previous agendas are null and void. Once love penetrates, it will soften you, and make you vulnerable. Your true self will surface – but you must LET it! If you deny this, in any way, pure love cannot fully work.

To receive love, you must open yourself. In that opening you will rediscover long lost pains, awarenesses, secrets and memories of love gone by. It can be painful, but not to be avoided, as this is the place of healing. Hiding, manipulating, or being dishonest blocks pure love from flowing in OR out. To give love, you must offer it freely, with no pre-conceived ideas or expectations, accepting and nurturing what you see…and your heart will be healed.

The healing Gift of Love allows ourselves to be loved in whatever condition we arrive. True love can do this, selfish love cannot. Unconditional love can do this, judgemental love cannot. With pure love, the pains of the past start to disappear. The coldness of your heart begins to melt. Resentments give way to forgiveness. And comfort soothes the loneliness.

To be on the receiving or giving end of this blissful love doesn’t matter. Many say, “You must first love yourself before you can love another.” You say it usually happens at the same time. Share the Gift of Love with another, and you will never be the same!

The Career Woman

Friday, March 20th, 2009

How can you be a successful woman? The following tips may help you set such a course for your lives.

Self-Confidence

Impeccable personal grooming and a pleasing demeanor are important components of self-confidence. If a woman is not convinced that she deserves success, she will never achieve it; and conveying her confidence in herself is essential if she is to move up the success ladder.

Self-confidence can take a woman far, especially in a difficult work environment. If a woman is confident in her own capabilities and skills, she is much more likely to promote her own accomplishments and refine her skills for a brighter future.

Hone Your Skills

Once you know what your goals are, it’s time to start working on the things that will make it possible to attain them.

Education

The most effective advantage that any woman can have is her education. She should always take advantage of every opportunity that comes along to gain more education and to enhance already-existing knowledge by keeping up with current developments through trade publications, conferences, and professional courses.

Once you have your education in hand, don’t just sit on them – make them known to your employer. This goes double for any executive-level or graduate degrees that you may have earned.

Far too many women have stellar educational records, but keep them to themselves. The fact is that you need to make your accomplishments public. This isn’t bragging – it’s being smart and savvy about advancing your career.

Focus On Your Strengths

When it comes to your career, your focus should be on a particular area and you should concentrate on developing your skills in it. Enjoy your work, find your specialty and talents, and work on them, keeping your knowledge as the base.

The person who is unable to work to their greatest capacity is not a professional; instead, she is just an employee working for a salary. Always remember that you can never excel in a field that does not hold your interest and that you don’t have a passion for. It’s enthusiasm – the foundation for all your achievements.

What Do Women Want From Men?

Thursday, November 22nd, 2007

It’s no secret that men and women are different. It is no news that they look for different things in a relationship. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. What do women want from men? There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old, fat, skinny, talkative, quiet, beautiful, not so beautiful.

One thing that is clear is that everyone looks for a perfect relationship. Men are remarkable by their caution and carefulness. Women though are much more fussy. When it comes to choosing men, they not only have a greater list of requirements, they’re also keen to make the effort to help the guy change. But despite their striving for talking things through, most men still struggle to understand exactly what women need to be happy with them.

What do women want? They just want to be happy like us. They just have a different way to show it. If you learn their language, listen when you’d rather speak, hug instead of just walking away, tell the truth till it hurts, be a man she can depend on and love her like you love yourself. You’ll no longer ask what women want, they’ll be asking you what you want and give it to you.

Here are some true things that we can say safely women want from men.

Value. Women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain “gotta have” quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Structure. A woman wants stability, balance, a sense of order. She wants someone she can rely on. You say you’re going to be home at 9:00, you be home at 9:00. You are late? Call. The hardest thing for us guys is to differenciate between support and total control. Creating a foundation and stability doesn’t mean trying to solve all the problems to the point you disempower the one you love. Your love is not a crutch but a bond. A bond where dependability is synonymous with trust.

Security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everyting’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

Love . Love them most of all. Let it all out. Let it all out every day, every minute of every second of every day. Be love, crawl up inside of it and approach every problem with the question what would love do now? If you do this, fear will never enter your life.

Appreciation. Women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted – but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.

Don’t lie. A woman can forgive a lot of things but she won’t put up with a snake in the grass liar. If once she caught you that you lied her she would never have more trust in you. Lie to a woman you are dissing her. Tell the truth, you live to play another day.

Hug her. Hug her in the morning, hug her before you leave to work, e-mail her a hug and hug her ten times when you get home. You must make her feel loved and protected.

Smile. Women don’t like boring men .Be someone who smiles, who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious – even if he is good looking or wealthy.

A woman want a man with a purpose. It’s not necessary to have a lot of money and a great car but they do want to be headed towards success. They do want to living up to your potential.

So, as a summary women like to be understood, happiness, respect and they also want honesty. But, as the time goes by, the woman wishes change because she is setting new goals. Why men can’t figure women out is because they are a masterpiece in progress.